My ex-snake

10 years ago today

I married my ex-snake.

That is a day that I will always be thankful for.

Don't get me wrong

I can not stand my ex

and

I am so thankful I am no longer married to him.

He did me wrong

very very very wrong

and

he has since received his karma for that.

Had I not walked down the aisle to marry him

I wouldn't be where I am

in my life right now.

I wouldn't be married to the man of my dreams now

and

I wouldn't have my other 3 children in my life.

Getting divorced isn't always a bad thing.

In my case

it was a necessity.

Was I ashamed that I couldn't make my marriage work

absolutely

but

I can't tell you how thankful I am for all the life lessons he taught me.

So today

I am going to reflect upon all the things he has

taught me

shown me

or

given me

both

good and bad.

-I am so grateful that he gave me my beautiful daughter, Isabel.

-I now know what poor really does feels like.

-I know all the signs and symptoms of an alcoholic.

-I can smell out a rat/snake from a mile away.

-I know what it feels like to be stolen from.

-I know when someone is lying to me, even when they are making eye contact with me.

-I learned that a man doesn't use a purple toothbrush, no matter how many times he tries to convince you otherwise.

-I learned that when another woman has a "pet" name for your husband and uses "said" name in front of you, that's probably a good indication that she is the owner of "that" purple toothbrush.

-I learned that marriage counseling doesn't answer all your problems.

-I understand that abuse isn't just physical, it can very much be emotional and verbal.

-I learned that when you have to become a private detective in your own marriage, it isn't a good sign.

-He taught me that if your going to show up to the hospital to see your newborn daughter, when your drunk, your probably not going to be a good father.

-He taught me what it feels like to feel all alone in the world.

-He taught me how to stand up for myself and for what I believe a marriage should be.

-I learned that it's better to be all alone, then to be with someone who doesn't love or appreciate you.

-I learned how to start my life all over again.

-He taught me how to be a better wife for Fox.

-I learned what is important to argue about in a marriage and what isn't.

-I learned that I do deserve happiness and love in life.

I could go

on

and

on

and

on

with my list.

But you get my point right?

Today I am celebrating my happiness in

this chapter of my life.

I've been married before

and

I'm not ashamed to admit it.

It has taught me so many life lessons

that I never would've had to endure otherwise.

I am a much stronger person because of it.

I am so thankful for being married to my ex-snake

because

he lead me to my Fox.